Bumping Into Each Other # 1

God placed us in a tight space and called it “a home” and gave us people to bump into and called them  “family.”    I think it was part of His design to help us learn to love other people as we bump into each other in ways that reveal how much we love ourselves and want our own way. It is in this “family space” that we have the most  opportunities to grow love.  Isn’t it sometimes also  the hardest place?

This year my hubby Don and I are celebrating fifty years of living in our tight little space called “family.” Our kids left to make their own spaces over twenty years ago. Don and I still bump into each other daily, and we still are learning how to love and prefer each other daily.

If you live with someone, may I suggest 3 ways to make the bumping  smoother and even more fun along the way. Here is Bumping Bullet # 1 — I’ll share more later.

Bumping Bullet #1. Be someone your partner can trust.

God often reminds me of this Bible verse: Her husband can safely trust her & she will greatly enrich his life.”  from Proverbs 31.

When you are with other people, can your partner trust you to build him/her up or do you tend to tear him/her down?  Do you choose the relationship over being right, what is best for the relationship, or what is best for yourself?

How do you enrich your partner’s life each day in ways that he/she enjoys?

Honor Your Spouse (#4 of 7)

photoWe often bump into each other in that tight space called family. It’s a great space to learn how to be less self-centered and how to honor others.  I’ve been working on honoring my hubby for almost 50 years and this is still a daily challenge: Her husband can trust her and she will greatly enrich his life.”   Proverbs 31

Here are two things I try to do daily to honor my hubby.

1) COMMUNICATE

Communicating with each other is hard work but essential if you want to enjoy doing life together.  I encourage couples to practice, read good books and articles, get help from a friend, counselor or pastor if you need it (and we all do at times) but whatever it takes, get this skill down and just do it.

Here’s a little exercise I challenge you to test drive for a week to improve your communicating. Each day take turns sharing the daily four together:                The Daily Four

  1. What are you feeling?
  2. What do you appreciate about your partner?
  3. What are you thankful for?
  4. Pray together.

2) SERVE

I love to do special things for Don to enrich his life.  I’m going to toss out a few sample from my week.  Warning: you must be YOU. You need to express honor in your own creative ways.

  • Don loves to eat.  Even when inconvenient for me, a good meal on the table every day says “I love you” to my man.  I love to cook. Could it be due to all those 1000+ meals when he said, “Thanks, that was really good?”  Hmmm. Be right back — better check on those pork chops on the stove.
  • About halfway through lunch I’ve started putting down my fork (a good thing) and picking up a book (right now it is Heidi Baker’s “Compelled by Love.”) I read an excerpt for us to enjoy together.
  • Don also loves football. After years of trying, I still don’t love football, but I do sit by him for Monday Night Football. (He listens to the game on headsets and I read a book on my Kindle.) Just sitting near scores points.
  • At the grocery store I picked up three cartons of Breyers Light Vanilla which I rarely eat. Ice cream is a staple for Don on the list above bread and milk, so I make sure the freezer is well stocked.
  • I also picked up some mirror chalk (thanks for the idea, Tim & Talor.) This week Don and I started leaving each other encouraging notes on our mirrors. You can see in the picture above his note to me this morning. Honoring.

These are just a few things that came to mind. You can think of a lot more.  The main thing is …  Just do it!

          Love each other with genuine affection and take delight in honoring each other.  Romans 12:10

The Joy Journal (pt 1) — The T’s

When our grandkids were toddling around, keeping their mommas more than occupied, I decided I would jot down some of our favorite moments to remember. I began chronicling them, especially grandkid moments, in a notebook called the Joy Journal.

Come chuckle with me as you read some snippets from my Joy Journal below about our delightful seven grandkids who, although much older now, are still making very precious moments to remember. Thank you, Lord.

I thought I would share my  joy journal snippets in 3 blogs, one for each family, beginning today with the T’s.

TAYLOR V. (now age 21)

♦ Taylor was a little Shirley Temple with a headful of blonde ringlets and a smile that melted even the stranger’s hearts. For several years she sang all day long and spread sunshine with her cheery phrases like “D’ad be nice,” which our entire family still fondly says. Taylor didn’t like to talk on the phone at 2, and after my hello I would hear “luv you bye” and click. I still often end my calls with “luv you bye” (even one time accidentally to a boss.)

♦ But there was also that infamous phrase she coined which still embarrasses me when my kids want to have fun at my expense. At a gas station Taylor (2) recognized Miller Lite cans in the cooler and exclaimed, “mamaw juice.” Not!  Thanks, Taylor.

TOBY V. (now age 17)
♦ Mommy Kristi was reading a book to Toby and Taylor explaining how babies come from God in heaven and then mommies give birth to them here on earth. Kristi said to Taylor, “Do you remember when Toby was born and you went to Grandma’s to stay while Mommy was in the hospital?”

The T’s Toby and Taylor

Toby scowled at Kristi, “Mommy, that’s not fair. Taylor got to go to Grandma’s and I had to stay in heaven?” Only with grandkids do we have the honor of being ranked right up there with God.

♦ Another time when Kristi explained to little Toby that he just couldn’t go with her to a Pampered Chef Party, he said, “whose house is it at?” Kristi said, “It’s at Judy’s house.”

Toby replied, “Oh, I could go. I know her, Judy and the Beast.”

O the joys of grandkids!  I have more, the adventures of the  K’s and our little ruffins later this week.